{"id":1629,"date":"2023-09-12T15:49:23","date_gmt":"2023-09-12T22:49:23","guid":{"rendered":"https:\/\/dredf.org\/web-log\/?p=1629"},"modified":"2023-09-19T16:45:58","modified_gmt":"2023-09-19T23:45:58","slug":"curiosity-and-joy-in-disability-advocacy","status":"publish","type":"post","link":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/2023\/09\/12\/curiosity-and-joy-in-disability-advocacy\/","title":{"rendered":"Curiosity and Joy in Disability Advocacy"},"content":{"rendered":"<p><strong>September 12, 2023<\/strong><\/p>\n<figure id=\"attachment_1632\" aria-describedby=\"caption-attachment-1632\" style=\"width: 2560px\" class=\"wp-caption alignnone\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"size-full wp-image-1632\" src=\"https:\/\/dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-scaled.jpeg\" alt=\"A young autistic couple practices parallel play while lounging on a picnic blanket at the park. On the left, the Black woman lies on her partner\u2019s lap, smiling and playing with her popsocket fidget. On the right, the non-binary Asian person reads a poetry book.\" width=\"2560\" height=\"1708\" srcset=\"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-scaled.jpeg 2560w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-300x200.jpeg 300w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-2024x1350.jpeg 2024w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-768x512.jpeg 768w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-1536x1025.jpeg 1536w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-2048x1366.jpeg 2048w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 2560px) 100vw, 2560px\" \/><figcaption id=\"caption-attachment-1632\" class=\"wp-caption-text\">Credit: <a href=\"https:\/\/affecttheverb.com\/disabledandhere\/\">Disabled and Here<\/a><\/figcaption><\/figure>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Every July, during Disability Pride Month, we take time to highlight what we value about our culture, our rights movement, our community, and ourselves as disabled people. It\u2019s not an easy subject, what with the ableism that many of us are still unlearning, or being faced with. Sometimes feeling proud can feel like work, like we need to do this or show it because that\u2019s what good disabled people do during Disability Pride Month, right?!<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">But when I thought hard about it, I realized that Disability Pride \u2013 for me, anyway \u2013 is more about the little stuff than the big stuff. With it being about the little stuff, it transcends a designated month and becomes a way of life and a value that I want to integrate into my daily life. That \u201clittle stuff\u201d is the joy that we experience in our lives, sometimes by dint of our disabilities, sometimes without. I know that my disabilities allow me to focus on small things that bring me great joy \u2013 a gecko winking, dew on a flower, a smashed leaf that is shaped like a heart. This is a gift, I realize now, and I also realize that by highlighting some of my joy and the things I focus on, I not only validate that it\u2019s a disabled expression \u2013 and make it easier for others to do as well \u2013 but I\u2019m sharing part of the disabled experience and releasing some of the heaviness that is associated with advocating for disability rights.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Here&#8217;s an <a href=\"https:\/\/www.instagram.com\/reel\/CuhD3Dcg8FY\/\" target=\"_blank\" rel=\"noopener\">Instagram reel I made for Disability Pride Month<\/a> where I talk more about Disability Joy. <\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Focusing on our joy and feeling light about ourselves was something I saw in a recent panel about accessibility, <\/span><em><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><a href=\"https:\/\/vimeo.com\/837975431\">Don\u2019t Whisper, SHOUT: The IPG Inclusion Breakfast 2023<\/a>:<\/span><\/em><\/p>\n<div class=\"jetpack-video-wrapper\"><div class=\"embed-vimeo\" style=\"text-align: center;\"><iframe loading=\"lazy\" src=\"https:\/\/player.vimeo.com\/video\/837975431\" width=\"640\" height=\"360\" frameborder=\"0\" webkitallowfullscreen mozallowfullscreen allowfullscreen><\/iframe><\/div><\/div>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">The panel had the usual marching out of disability statistics and inclusion-speak (i.e. <\/span><i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">We\u2019re a really big community! Worth paying attention to because of our market value! It\u2019s the right thing! Representation is part of inclusion!<\/span><\/i><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">) but there were also some gold nuggets in there. One such gem talks about curiosity as a means of advocacy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Curiosity requires that you have an open mind, requires a mental flexibility. In any of our advocacy work, we\u2019re essentially asking that people open their minds and see things in a different way. Sure, we might do that by using litigation, but that\u2019s just because it\u2019s gotten to that point \u2013 sometimes you must use a crowbar to open the door of a burning house.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Curiosity is light. It\u2019s playful. It\u2019s a way to question ourselves through self-examination \u2013 asking ourselves, \u201cwhy am I thinking about this situation in this particular way?\u201d \u2013 and a way to question a situation. \u201cTell me more about that\u201d and \u201cwhat do you mean by that?\u201d in a curious tone of voice doesn\u2019t feel heavy, and it opens the door to conversations. It also says something. Asking about situations, words, and tones is saying something, it\u2019s doing something. And it\u2019s saying and doing things in a way that can keep relationships open and engaged, which are necessary in this world.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Back to disability joy.<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">I think too many people expect us to be miserable and sad with our disabled lives. All of those \u201cI\u2019m sorry\u2019s\u201d we get in response to disclosing an unseen or unknown disability, all the pity. There\u2019s an unwritten expectation that we\u2019re supposed to be sad all the time. In that light, sharing our joy is a radical act of advocacy. It speaks to the light within us, the gifts our disabilities bring that we embrace and tune in to.<\/span><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">\u00a0<\/span><\/p>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\">Curiosity is both a tool and a feeling. It helps us in our own lives, and it helps us to advocate for our own rights. We can be playful and light and enjoy our lives, even while we march forward and strive to change our culture, access and our right to opportunities.<\/span><\/p>\n<p>&nbsp;<\/p>\n<hr class=\"styled-separator\" \/>\n<p><span style=\"font-weight: 400\"><img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" class=\"wp-image-1572 alignleft\" src=\"https:\/\/dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/06\/Screenshot-2023-06-30-at-11.54.11-AM.png\" alt=\"Portrait of Meriah Nichols\" width=\"258\" height=\"259\" srcset=\"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/06\/Screenshot-2023-06-30-at-11.54.11-AM.png 770w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/06\/Screenshot-2023-06-30-at-11.54.11-AM-298x300.png 298w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/06\/Screenshot-2023-06-30-at-11.54.11-AM-150x150.png 150w, https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/06\/Screenshot-2023-06-30-at-11.54.11-AM-768x772.png 768w\" sizes=\"auto, (max-width: 258px) 100vw, 258px\" \/>Meriah Hudson Nichols is a therapist, counselor, and blogger. Neurodivergent, queer and deaf, she is also a single mom of three very cool human beings with whom she enjoys watching Star Trek. She is passionate about disability rights, education, and employment. Her special interests include gardening and planning. <\/span><\/p>\n","protected":false},"excerpt":{"rendered":"<p><strong>September 12, 2023<\/strong><br \/>\n<img loading=\"lazy\" decoding=\"async\" src=\"https:\/\/dredf.org\/wp-content\/uploads\/sites\/6\/2023\/09\/Parallel-play-at-the-park-Disabled-And-Here-scaled.jpeg\" alt=\"A young autistic couple practices parallel play while lounging on a picnic blanket at the park. On the left, the Black woman lies on her partner\u2019s lap, smiling and playing with her popsocket fidget. On the right, the non-binary Asian person reads a poetry book.\" width=\"1200\" height=\"801\" class=\"alignnone size-full wp-image-26646\" \/><br \/>Sharing our joy is a radical act of advocacy. It speaks to the light within us, the gifts our disabilities bring that we embrace and tune in to.\u00a0 <a class=\"continue\" href=\"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/2023\/09\/12\/curiosity-and-joy-in-disability-advocacy\/\">Continue Reading<span> Curiosity and Joy in Disability Advocacy<\/span><\/a><\/p>\n","protected":false},"author":23,"featured_media":0,"comment_status":"open","ping_status":"open","sticky":false,"template":"","format":"standard","meta":{"_relevanssi_hide_post":"","_relevanssi_hide_content":"","_relevanssi_pin_for_all":"","_relevanssi_pin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_unpin_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_keywords":"","_relevanssi_related_include_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_exclude_ids":"","_relevanssi_related_no_append":"","_relevanssi_related_not_related":"","_relevanssi_related_posts":"","_relevanssi_noindex_reason":"","jetpack_post_was_ever_published":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_access":"","_jetpack_dont_email_post_to_subs":false,"_jetpack_newsletter_tier_id":0,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paywalled_content":false,"_jetpack_memberships_contains_paid_content":false,"footnotes":""},"categories":[12],"tags":[],"class_list":["post-1629","post","type-post","status-publish","format-standard","hentry","category-disability-rights"],"jetpack_featured_media_url":"","jetpack_shortlink":"https:\/\/wp.me\/p4MGYT-qh","jetpack_sharing_enabled":true,"jetpack_likes_enabled":true,"_links":{"self":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1629","targetHints":{"allow":["GET"]}}],"collection":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts"}],"about":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/types\/post"}],"author":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/users\/23"}],"replies":[{"embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/comments?post=1629"}],"version-history":[{"count":5,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1629\/revisions"}],"predecessor-version":[{"id":1658,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/posts\/1629\/revisions\/1658"}],"wp:attachment":[{"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/media?parent=1629"}],"wp:term":[{"taxonomy":"category","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/categories?post=1629"},{"taxonomy":"post_tag","embeddable":true,"href":"https:\/\/archive.dredf.org\/web-log\/wp-json\/wp\/v2\/tags?post=1629"}],"curies":[{"name":"wp","href":"https:\/\/api.w.org\/{rel}","templated":true}]}}